How is a newcomer supposed to break into the swinger world? Many established swingers know the tips and tricks, but for the newcomers, here are a few tips for your first swinger party.

1. Do your Research

Swinger parties are ending up increasingly well known, which means there's increasingly more variety in the gatherings themselves. Set aside some effort to investigate the particular party you've been welcome to. What are the subtleties of this gathering? Where is it being held? Reach out to the hosts if you find yourself confused.

Attempt to get some answers concerning the standards before the gathering, as well. Is it couple-exclusive? Is there a theme?

Look out for parties that don’t consider consent first and foremost. These sorts of inquiries will enable you to make sense of whether you feel good about attending.

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2. Converse with The Coordinators

In the event that you can't discover enough data on the welcome or site, don't spare a moment to connect with the hosts directly.

Questions to consider:

  • Have they thrown a lifestyle party before?
  • How frequently?
  • What are their expectations for the gathering?

Ask them what the guidelines are, and what occurs in the event that you feel awkward, in danger, or on the off chance that somebody abuses your limits. If you don't get a decent vibe from the coordinators, you most likely won't have fun at the party.

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3. Be Reasonable 

 

Many individuals hear "swinger party" and think about the blow out scene in Eyes Wide Shut . Swinger parties can be very erotic, yet they can also be incredibly clumsy or awkward.

 There will most likely be some alluring individuals at the gathering, and there will inevitably be a lot of individuals you're not attracted to. A lot of people in the lifestyle are very cautious about consent and creating a desirable environment, but sometimes a few bad apples slip in. 

 

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Simply be reasonable about the way that not every person will fit into your meaning of hot. Nor will you need to be closest companions with each individual there, nor will everybody wear a veil by candlelight. In any case, that is alright! 

 

If you want to assure that the party will be brimming with Kens and Barbies, we recommend going to a pre-vetted event. These higher end, more luxurious parties are on the rise for swingers who’d rather shy away from the random hookup in a dark alley. 

 

The most popular of these well-vetted events are hosted by The-Group (a member you can find on APG!). The-Group vets their entire guest list with dinners (known as Just For Dinner) around the country before anyone even gets an invitation to their weekend getaways. These exuberant resort weekends are a favourite among lifestylers with a flair for luxury. 

 

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4. Consider Your Limits

 

The most important thing to know before you attend a swingers party is your own limits, and your partner’s. What would you like to get from this gathering? What might cause the experience to appear to be fun and energizing? 

 

Things to consider: 

  • The sexual orientation of the individuals you would be open to playing with.
  • If it matters to you if you play with couples or singles. 
  • Does age matter to you?
  • The particular exercises that are on or off the table for you and your partner (for instance, getting hit, giving a penis massage, and so on.) 

5. Work on Saying No 

Appearing at a sex gathering doesn't mean you consent to any and each action occurring. It may seem to be harder to say no in a room full of yes’, but remember that being honest with yourself and others will make the party a success.

If you’re worried about seeming rude, try something clearly well-mannered like, “Thank you for offering, but I’m not interested.”

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6. Bring a Friend (or Lover)

Bringing a friend would is highly recommended, especially if it’s that gorgeous single that you’ve always had your eye on.

You should have someone there that you trust, whether it be a romantic partner or a close friend/play partner. This will help you feel safe. 

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If you don’t already have a play partner, join APG to find one today. Being open and honest that you are a newcomer to the lifestyle will help you build trust and make the entire evening sexier. 

 

APG welcomes new lifestylers with open arms. We want you to feel safe in our community, established in 2003 and still the leading swingers dating site for the mid-Atlantic. 

 

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