In casual conversation, people throw the words fetish and kink around interchangeably. They’re used to describe any sexual desire or bias that falls outside the conventional ― like BDSM, for example.
But while the two terms may overlap, sexperts say there are some basic differences.
So, What’s a Fetish?
Generally, a fetish is a sexual fixation on a certain object or act that is entirely vital to a person’s sexual satisfaction. It’s usually something that may not be inherently sexual. Things like leather or shoes can be fetishes.
Another type of fetish is based around a body part like the feet, hands, butt or boobs. That’s referred to as “partialism.” As in, you are definitely partial to that body part.
On the other hand, kink is a more general term. It surrounds a bunch of alternative sexual interests, fantasies, or preferences that go beyond your vanilla missionary sex. Examples might include roleplay, spanking, BDSM, or anything your imagination comes up with.
Where a fetish is absolutely necessary for release, a kink only adds to your satisfaction in the bedroom.
There’s A Lot of Overlap
Remember: Not all kinks are fetishes, but all fetishes are kinks. What is one person’s kink might be another’s fetish and vice versa.
The lines get blurry since overlap does happen between fetishes and kinks. The two concepts have a lot of gray areas.
According to sexperts, fetishes usually appear early in life and based on experiences during childhood or adolescence. Since they can start early, fetishes grow stronger as a person develops sexually.
Now that we’ve cleared that up, how about we get kinky?
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